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	<title>Forbidden Family &#187; legitimatebastard</title>
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	<description>A Half Orphan&#039;s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism * * * Promoting Adoption Reform Since 1974</description>
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		<title>An open letter to APs, PAPs, and anyone who has even considered adoption</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/12/08/an-open-letter-to-aps-paps-and-anyone-who-has-even-considered-adoption/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:21:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted people are not gifts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptee's search has nothing to do with adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptees]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to always be careful not to "hurt" their adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees have problems trusting others and forming relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays are not a cause for celebration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays mark the day we were physically separated from our mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption is a thing to mourn]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption is not a cure for infertility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[all adoptees have two sets of real parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted hurts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted is cause for great sadness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[don't EVER use the horribly offensive and insensitive term "Gotcha Day”]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[educate yourself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family preservation should always be the goal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fear of rejection and abandonment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[help your adoptee to heal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[openness and honesty in adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[PAP's Pre-Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pre-adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ramifications of adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tell the truth to your adoptee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Would YOU have liked it if your mother gave you away?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been aborted]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been thrown in a dumpster]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The following was written by an anonymous adult adoptee who has given permission for this letter to be posted here.    (What you are about to read may shock you.  It may challenge you.  And, hopefully, it may inspire you to educate yourself further on the realities of adoption. Please read the following with an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Lawsuit Claims Birth Certificate of Schwarzenegger&#8217;s Love Child Was Falsified</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/06/01/lawsuit-claims-birth-certificate-of-schwarzeneggers-love-child-was-falsified/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/06/01/lawsuit-claims-birth-certificate-of-schwarzeneggers-love-child-was-falsified/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Jun 2011 23:20:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[False Information on Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Genealogy]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Arnold Schwarzenegger]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Lawsuit over false information on birth certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Rogelio Baena]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The ex-husband of Arnold Schwarzenegger&#8217;s lover plans to sue claiming that “the birth certificate of the couple’s love child was falsified.” Details can be found here. I’m not sure if Rogelio Baena stands a chance in his lawsuit against Arnold Schwarzenegger. While I agree with his outrage and the fact that his name is on [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sealed Birth Records Perpetuate the Stigma of Illegitimacy Even When One is Born Legitimately</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/01/21/sealed-birth-records-perpetuate-the-stigma-of-illegitimacy-even-when-one-is-born-legitimately/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/01/21/sealed-birth-records-perpetuate-the-stigma-of-illegitimacy-even-when-one-is-born-legitimately/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jan 2011 22:02:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee Birth Certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptees' Civil Rights]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Amended Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Original Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[illegitimate vs legitimate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[mothers in hiding]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[not all adoptees are illegitimate]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[There is the assumption that all adoptees come from “shameful” births that “need” to be hidden by sealed birth records. This is just not so. There are many adoptees who were relinquished by widowed parents, divorced parents, and parents who remain married after surrender. None of these adoptions warrant the stigma of illegitimacy and the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Truth About Your Birth Certificate: What Does This Mean For Adoptees Who Have Two Birth Certificates?</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/10/28/the-truth-about-your-birth-certificate-what-does-this-mean-for-adoptees-who-have-two-birth-certificates/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/10/28/the-truth-about-your-birth-certificate-what-does-this-mean-for-adoptees-who-have-two-birth-certificates/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 29 Oct 2010 01:55:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee False Legal Birth Certificate]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Original Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[amended birth certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[birth certificates]]></category>
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		<title>Not illegitimate</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/09/16/not-illegitimate/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/09/16/not-illegitimate/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Sep 2010 20:55:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee Birth Certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptee False Legal Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Amended Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[False Information on Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Original Birth Certificate]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' access to original birth certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[full orphan]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[half orphan]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[illegitimate bastards]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[illegitimate birth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[legitimate birth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[orphans in adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sealed birth certificates]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sealed records]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[single parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[two married parents]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Not illegitimate Humboldt Beacon Posted: 09/16/2010 10:47:21 AM PDT       Dear Editor, There are obvious limitations of the current debate on adoptees&#8217; access to their birth certificates, but people rarely think of adoptees as legitimately born. Adoption is not only about single mothers of loss and adoptees who were illegitimate bastards. Half and full orphans [...]]]></description>
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