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	<title>Forbidden Family &#187; Adoption Loss</title>
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		<title>An open letter to APs, PAPs, and anyone who has even considered adoption</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/12/08/an-open-letter-to-aps-paps-and-anyone-who-has-even-considered-adoption/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:21:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>legitimatebastard</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adopted people are not gifts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptee's search has nothing to do with adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptees]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to always be careful not to "hurt" their adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees are expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees have problems trusting others and forming relationships]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays are not a cause for celebration]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptees' birthdays mark the day we were physically separated from our mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption is a thing to mourn]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption is not a cure for infertility]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoption trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[all adoptees have two sets of real parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted hurts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[being adopted is cause for great sadness]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[don't EVER use the horribly offensive and insensitive term "Gotcha Day”]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[educate yourself]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[expected to be grateful]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family preservation should always be the goal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[fear of rejection and abandonment]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[help your adoptee to heal]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[openness and honesty in adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[PAP's Pre-Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pre-adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[ramifications of adoption]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[tell the truth to your adoptee]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Would YOU have liked it if your mother gave you away?]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been aborted]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[you could have been thrown in a dumpster]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[The following was written by an anonymous adult adoptee who has given permission for this letter to be posted here.    (What you are about to read may shock you.  It may challenge you.  And, hopefully, it may inspire you to educate yourself further on the realities of adoption. Please read the following with an [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Season of Sadness</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/03/28/season-of-sadness/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/03/28/season-of-sadness/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 28 Mar 2011 17:05:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Death and Dying]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[all adoptees have two sets of real parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anniversaries of deaths]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[death of parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[pain of loss]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[With the recent passing of my adoptive mother and my natural father now four of my five parents are dead. Only my step mother survives. Today marks the 55th anniversary of the death of my natural mother. So I sadly mark their memories: Genevieve Herr Sippel (natural mother) died March 28, 1956 at age 30. Edward [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Rest in Peace, Mom</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2011/03/14/rest-in-peace-mom/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 14 Mar 2011 18:50:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Death and Dying]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive mother's death]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[My adoptive mother, Doloris T. Wheeler, passed away early in the morning of March 12, 2011 after a long battle with leukemia. I love you, Mom.   &#8230; To My Mother by H. Phelps Clawson, 1923   Death! Is there some wild terror in your name That causes mortal men to tremble so? Your scythe spares [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth in Adoption: How I Petitioned for My Adoption Files</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/02/truth-in-adoption-how-i-petitioned-for-my-adoption-files/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/02/truth-in-adoption-how-i-petitioned-for-my-adoption-files/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Nov 2010 20:55:34 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptees' Civil Rights]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Fathers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mothers]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[natural father]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Mother]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Natural Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Petitioning Surrogate's Court for Sealed Adoption Records]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Surrogate's Court]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[truth in adoption]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[I was reunited with my natural family in 1974. By 1981, I had petitioned Surrogate’s Court for my Final Order of Adoption, even though I already had a copy (see yesterday’s post). In 1985, I petitioned Surrogate’s Court of Erie County, New York for all of my sealed adoption files. I wanted every piece of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Truth in Adoption: I Was the Skeleton in the Closet</title>
		<link>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/01/truth-in-adoption-i-was-the-skeleton-in-the-closet/</link>
		<comments>http://forbiddenfamily.net/2010/11/01/truth-in-adoption-i-was-the-skeleton-in-the-closet/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Nov 2010 22:27:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>halforphan56</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Adoptee's Conflicting Emotions]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Psychology]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoption Trauma]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Adoptive Parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Family Systems]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents and lies]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents hiding the truth about my blood siblings]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[adoptive parents' god children]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[don't live in the past]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[excuses used by adoptive parents]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[get over it]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[it is over and done with]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[it's the way it was done]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[let it be]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[National Adoption Awareness Month]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[skeletons in the closet]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[stories told about adoptee's birth]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[things are different now]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[who are my god parents?]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[For the duration of my childhood, I was raised with the belief that my birth was “the skeleton in the closet” and that I was to never ask about it. I was simply told two different stories during my childhood. The stories were never discussed, just stated. The first story was told to me when [...]]]></description>
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